Re: ZufriedengestellterBube as she used to like dogs, W’s obsession has gotten D17 to the point that she said she never wants to have a dog
I get this way too, so I know some of the feelings. Like Lil's bf, manytimes the dogs/cats get more affection and on a regular basis than the family members.
BB and D34 have a good R but sometimes strained R. BB has not wanted to see D34 as often but D34 got new a cat. Now BB wants to go see D34. Is the new cat a grand baby? What's up with that.
ZB, people get attached to pets to cover up or fill in for some losses in their life, precieved or real.
I know some of BB's loses. She says people want things from you and sometimes don't have time for you or people don;t respect your opinions. Pets accept you mo matter what you do or feel.
I say to myself, yea, right, get a pet to pay the property taxes, buy you another 47" TV, take you out to ear, or rub your feet for an hour. Does your W feel like she is always giving?
Also Do you know what your W's losses are? I am serious.
Knowing about what "she thinks" are loses or slights may not fix anything but might give you a clue as to what you might do next.
Here’s the really short history.
1974 – regular sex with HS GF.
Fall of 1975 – meet STBW.
Dec. 1975 – M – SL as listed above.
Mar 1987 - first time IC.
Feb 1988 – D born.
Oct 1989 – first time with OW.
Dec 1989 – second time.
Jan 1990 – move out – sex with OW gets regular and great.
Apr 1990 – D from W.
Jul 1990 – move back in.
Dec 1990 – M W for second time – SL as above with IC maybe 2 or 3 times a year.
Mar 2004 – hysterectomy and HRT.
Summer 2004 – start having IC weekly – not sure why. HRT?
Spring/Summer 2005 – drifting slowly but surely back into old ways This post by you was heartbreaking ZB.
