Hi Sikan Good to hear that you and H are doing well. I know what you mean about dealing with your own issues and fears right now!

hmm hmm.. about OW. If you and H are getting along well and the R is moving forward, he's seeing less of OW and not hiding it, why do you want to talk about her more? Just a question, not a suggestion that you shouldnt really because only you know what you need. It's just that you're seeing such positive results with H right now having gotten to a place where you aren't talking much about OW, arent you? Is this part of your issues and fears? The wondering about her/them? and wanting her to just be gone? I understand that.. totally. Are you wanting the talk so that you can express your feelings about OW and how his R with her affects you and causes you to fear the future?

I don't have any advice.. but do have a friendly hug. I wish I knew what to say. I'd say don't discuss OW at all because that seems to be taking you to a good place with your H, but only you know what you need to do. I can say that all the talking in the world didnt make the difference I thought it would make with me. All the reassurances and mulling it over.. in the end, it was just my decision to leave it alone (and being pretty sure that H is through with her) that has given me peace with it. And you have to deal with your H maintaining contact, so that's tough.

I'm rooting for you GF in a big way!

Sheila