Oh Sikan.. what a post. Glad though that you had a good time with H! You mustve read my self fullfilling profesy comment in my recent post
Hardwired.. and yet you found each other. There is a reason that we are attracted to certain people. By your relationship with H, if you are able to weed out the habits and attitudes that aren't healthy you're making personal progress. I feel the same as you much of the time.. you could we ever make this work? It's just too big. Im too co-dependent and so is he. Im too controlling and he's too passive. Im too angry and he's a feeling-stuffer. He likes to manipulate me and I like to nurture and fix. It goes on and on and on.
We can only work on ourselves and see what happens. Admitting what the problem is will help. Seeing what needs to be changed can be turned into goals and with work, progress. Good for you realizing some things you want to improve about youself! If you can look at what you just wrote.. can you set some goals in order to start changing the behavior? If you are constantly taking on things and not realizing that you might not be able to accomplish it.. how can you avoid that in the future. And, what can you substitute for those projects that will give you a sense of accomplishment and self-worth?
