Are you working on your goals? Do you have a list that will help you chart progress? I always had some general goals, but once I got a few on paper that are attainable in a short amount of time, I find that I concentrate on them, and it's easier to stop the thoughts of what hasnt been done, or needs to be done. It's so much easier to shelf that problem and say I'll deal with it when it's the appropriate time, but right now, XYZ is a priority so I'll concentrate on that.
It's also taking H off the hook for all my unrealistic expectations. He can't possibly fix everything in a day either, so having goals together, agreeing on them, and working together is keeping me from resenting that he isn't trying harder. I always know where he stands and what his focus is. And, I know if I have a concern, he'll listen and consider it. My personal goals are also keeping me focused. This week I'm focusing on getting to the gym regularly, dusting off the guitar H bought me years ago and learning to play, and the writing habit I abandoned is getting a rebirth too.
Just some thoughts on how goal setting is helping our sitch. Especially when the emotions make for confusion, it's a relief to have something else to concentrate on, and celebrate! when a goal is met.
Hold on to the progress you're making! Recognize it and keep looking forward!
