I'm going away for a few days with H. We are both looking forward to it. I figured I should get a post in here because I'll be gone for the next four days.
Wondering if anyone else feels a lot of sadness and trepidation when things are starting to turn around in sitch for the better. Things are starting to improve in my sitch and strangely enough instead of glad I'm feeling kind of depressed. Is this normal?
Last night, H and I ML before we went to sleep. H and I had a discussion a little bit before about changing his tax status. We owed the IRS big time last year and recently just met with our accountant who advised us to withhold at highest rate. I have changed my status but H has not. He gave two reasons for this. 1. He was too busy last week and HR person was out sick. 2. He already changed his status and thinks they won't let him. (accountant already said that there are ways around this.)
I was angry because $$ issues are a problem between us. Getting H to combine finances with me was a huge ordeal. It's a part of his issues with sharing his life with others. I know this is part of the process of us working on our R and that it will come in baby steps and that I need to be patient and balanced about it.
Point is, all of last night I had been feeling blue about the R and his not changing his status set me off. I was able to detach from those feelings while ML and see how they were affecting me. Afterwards, I asked H directly if a part of the reason why he hadn't changed things yet was because he hates dealing with $$ issues. He said no, it was the other reasons he had mentioned and asked if that was how I thought of him. I said I knew that he has issues with $$ and it's better for me to be direct about that rather than to assume.
And that was the end of it. So, I am beginning to see behind a lot of my reactions but sometimes I feel that DBing has opened a Pandora's Box of my emotions and alot is coming to the surface.
Just interested in seeing if anyone else experiences this as well.
