I guess my fears are twofold: One, that they will reconcile their friendship. This is pure speculation on my part but I think their friendship cooled dramatically after an encounter at a club where H was with me, S and SBF. OW was also there and made a concerted effort to talk to H even though H was not actively encouraging this and was very much at club with me. See old thread for more info.
I'm afraid that they will just end friendship because of hurt feelings instead of addressing the fact that friendship was inappropriate and because of this it could resume again. Does that make any sense?
I know that I don't ahve ANY control over that, if that is the case and that's where DBing come in. But it still scares and concerns me.
And yes, we also don't have as much time alone. H and I now spend a majority of our time together. I guess this is common after EA or PA end but I don't know. In the past H either spent time with me or OW. He doesn't have many friends that he sees on a regular basis. OW became a friend to H, second to his R with me. I would love some suggestions as to how to get through this phase of the sitch.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Update on sitch-
Some positives: H said several times in the past week how he feels closer to me than at any other time in our R.
H started new blog page and has been posting there ALOT. I don't know if he still maintains old blog, communicating with OW but it is HUGE that he invited me to this one and more importantly the tone of his posts on the new page are much more positive. Blog with posts by OW was really childish and very negative.
H and I worked through a couple of sitches where my anxiety and/or paranoia would take hold. This time I talked them through with H and was able to work some things out.
