Hey Truman. Sounds familiar (the ol' bait and switch feeling), and there's no easy solution. Here's the pitch: read Michele's book, "The Sex Starved Marriage" and see if she'll read it. Also helpful is "Passionate Marriage" by David Schnarch. Others may recommend other books.

Marriage Counseling helps sometimes.

Stick around, read other people's situations and how they are dealing.

Oh, and masturbation helps sometimes, too.

How often do you and your W make love?

Hairdog