Quote: I did tell my H that my emotions and behavior in the first months were very intense and strong because my love and belief in our M was also intense and strong. Didn't take away what I did, but it seemed to make him a little more willing to understand my "craziness".
My H is now a little more willing to understand my "craziness" too. But this has only come about in the last few months. I believe he still thinks that behavior is selfish of me -- and he's right, just like his behavior is selfish of him.
After alot of thinking and reflection I believe my H ended up in an EA which progressed to PA and then back to EA because he wanted to feel loved. I had stopped doing that. For the last few months he has repeatedly made the statement to me and to others that he has no doubts about my love for him. I also think that he is finally seeing I am the more stable of the two women -- I'm continueing to stick it out when things are really bad -- she (OW) has already been divorced twice......Hmmmmm that's a no-brainer but it's taken him quite a while to even begin to see it.
VJ, I haven't read your sitch yet. I'm probably going to go to bed now. Have a class tomorrow w/ a test -- not worried about it but don't want to have a foggy head due to lack of sleep. I'll catch up to you tomorrow evening.
