Quote: Unfortunately I didn't know about DBing for the first 4 1/2 months of this seperation. I fear I may have done irreversable damage as I kept pushing him further and further away. I do feel that had I not done that damage, our sitch would be progressed much further than it has
Tessa...I feel the same way. My H announced D in January, and I spent until May/June "doing it my way". Of course it pushed it along until now D is very close. I hope to be piecing M back together someday, but realistically I can say it will be a year before we heal enough move closer to each other, while had I found DB and done better in those first months, we might have been talking a few months. It sounds like you and I have many of the same struggles with what we did wrong in the beginning....good luck, hang in there! I did tell my H that my emotions and behavior in the first months were very intense and strong because my love and belief in our M was also intense and strong. Didn't take away what I did, but it seemed to make him a little more willing to understand my "craziness".
