1. Has anyone had their WAS successfully break off the EA w/the OP after multiple failed attempts? How long did it take? What finally happened to make their attempt to break it off successful?
2. Is it ever possible for H and I to share the closeness that he feels he shares with her? If, as according to him, we haven't shared the emotional bond during 10 years, will it ever be possible? Sometimes I wonder if maybe she is the right person for him and I am not. Maybe he has been right and I just need to deal with it, let go and find the right person for me. Maybe he can be happier with her than he ever was with me.
I just happened to find this thread and thought I could maybe be of some help to you. In my R, I was the one who had the A. In all honesty, it started at a friendship and then went horribly wrong from there.
1. Yes. My A was an EA. I tried to break it off several times and failed. It took me almost a year. What finally woke me up was knowing that I wanted my XH back and that as long as OM was a part of my life, that would never happen. It took me feeling the complete and full weight of knowing that what I had done had broken up my family (it wasn't really all me, but my A helped push it over the edge). Once I truly felt that, I couldn't handle it. I knew I had to get my life back on track, for me and my family, and I finally ended it. It's been almost a year since I've had any contact with OM.
2. I don't know. That's what I'm trying to get back with XH. I think it is. I know that at one point we had gotten very close. I hate to say this to you, but it takes time. Lots and lots of time, for both of you.
I hope that helped you some. If you have any questions, no matter what, feel free to ask them of me. I want to help others here so much. And if I can give you or anyone something from the stand point of the one who had the A, please let me know.
