It was wonderful to read your update. Nothing to complain about hay you sure your a woman. We can always find something to complain about. I hope your prediction is way off base. Have a nice day!
hay you sure your a woman. We can always find something to complain about.
LOL, that is so great. My guy speak never throws you off, you know which of my phrases are going to freak out the HDW, and you bust on the feminine gender. You sure your a woman? I think you are me, just answering myself.
Hope you are having a good day chrissy, everybody is funny around here today.
Well been having quit a few swords thrown at me the last few days but yeah still having a good day! Just got done busting my sons principles chops gotta say it was quite enjoyable. Will update more on my thread later tonight
You sure your a woman?
Well I either got shorted on the package! or it is safe to say yes I am. (Checked to make sure)
Another good week...good connection, good sex. Since the vasectomy, I have noticed a change in H in that he just seems more affectionate--maybe he's happy everything still works and that he hasn't been castrated--hopefully it's because he's moving closer to me. He brought up something from the past ( usually this is my domain), that back the pregnancy/baby days, we went 14 months without sex and it was sporadic even after that. I have a fuzzy recollection of my LD days... guess I am more focused on the pain he has caused me in the last few yrs with his rejection. I'm hoping we are at a place we we both can move forward ...we seem to be at a new phase in our lives, a transition which coincides with our younger child entering the middle school...a minor version of empty nest syndrome, I suppose. Anyway, we both have hurts and have trust issues, but the last 2 weeks have felt especially connected. Hope it lasts.
Will be out of town for a few days next week, so won't update for awhile.
Great update! Glad things are going so well. And hey if the past is coming up and is not impacting you negatively maybe it is a way for you both to work through those hurts. Which in the end can only make things better.
Hope you have a wonder trip. Be it business or pleasure.
Thank you Chrissy. I am taking a few days to get things organized at my parents' apt in Florida. Hopefully it will be both business and pleasure, unless I get hit with a hurricane. H will be home with the kids, and I am looking forward to a little marital space.
What's doing with you?? I see you need a new thread.
No H no kids what more can you ask for but a few days of quite and lots of sunshine! Whoa wish I could come I want some of that.
Chancie's come home to stay for a few months her H gets out of the service in April and she would not have enough time left in SC to finish out the winter quarter in college so she came home so she can get school going here.
Lol I did not realize my thread was locked. Hmmm think I will just hang out in lurkersville for awhile. Pondering a new title.
H and I have been in a comfortable and peaceful place. It's not passionate, but it's healthy and connected. We discuss when we are going to ML and both of us are following through 100 percent. I don't feel that feeling of control anymore...if I want to change the timing or frequency, he is receptive. At the same time, I am not pushing anything, and we seemed to have settled into a twice a week pattern. I'd like to eventually increase the intimacy and the passion, but for now it's more important to to establish a period of calm and trust. I am tired of the drama and ups and downs. Serenity and peace is the name of the game here. Our home environment feels the same way...we are working remarkably well together to keep the house organized, the kids' schedules and homework demands met, and find time for fun. We're playing tennis as a family and as a couple again consistently. We go out for dinner and something entertaining once a week. Lots of balance here. We light candles and have tea in the morning before the kids get up. H has been handling finance and I am handling food...a big switch for us. I have never been able to take care of the food/dinner stuff, and for the first time these past few months I am doing it...and in such a healthy way. The kids are gravitating to the healthier foods by my just having them out and not pushing it. I sent H off to work with a container of healthy snacks and he is giving me lottsa hugs. This all sounds so mundane, but I feel I am finally able to confront the chaos within, and my H wants the same thing... a peaceful, loving, happy home. Our finances are in order, and I am making plans to go back to school, an environment that I love...for, guess what... a master's in nutrition. I am pretty excited! Not bad for a former wacked out gal!