Update... This week I find myself having nothing to complain about (imagine that)! I feel...happy. H has recovered from the vasectomy and has been warm and open and funny. The other night he spontaneously did oral on me, something he has been queasy about in the past and that added to my sense of rejection. He was giving me loving kisses all over and just seems to be embracing me. I have no idea why this is happening and I am sure we will be back to struggling again soon, but it's been a nice and welcome change.