I can tell you guys now, it's not about the sex even though it feels that way---the sex is necessary for what it really represents -- emotional connection, about caring about each other and believing in something bigger than yourselves. I have windows of this and then it breaks down, but I am getting there, with the help of this BB. One thing I realize is that our partner's actions have so much effect on us, so be good to each other.
So CeMar is right in a way. The emotional connection is so important because it makes us feel connected to (the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts) something bigger than us. When a SO is not involved in the M the way we want them to be, we can't be either so we feel lost or disconnected ourself.
IHJ Good to see you and H making the connections you "DO" make.
The trip brought us back to that early part of our relationship ( we haven't been back in almost 20 yrs), I have not seen the bell since 1976. I used to live about 30 miles from it. I have not been in the area since 1986.
Best wishes on your journey. Glad to see you will check in weekly.
