Yes, Lil, that's it. I guess the food analogy would be that we are eating dinner at 5 pm because that's the time that best suits him, otherwise his stomach acts up and he is not into it. And while I appreciate having the opportunity to enjoy meals with him, sometimes I am just not that hungry myself at that time, and actually if given a choice, would prefer a later dinner to help settle down before going to sleep. And it would be nice to enjoy a meal when I am mouth-watering hungry, esp since my appetite had been off for so long.
I don't know how others deal with this controlling aspect of the HD/LD dilemma. I probably take it out in other areas.
Anyway, I see now what set me off was hearing him "joke" about bothering him at nite; he was finding a way to express the pressure he's been feeling, and I took it in as being insensitive.
