GEL... You know, so much of this is patience and compromise, not to mention the hurt feelings because you have to be patient and compromise, that every now and then, I come down with a case of I wantwhatIwant-itis. After yrs of sexual repression, I also get a sprinkling ( okay more than a sprinkling) of itsmytimenow coupled with that ever present lifeisshort dis-ease.