We decided to drop the schedule and just discuss each nite what we're feeling and see what develops. On Tues. H called me from work at the end of the day to say he is completely exhausted and had a really stressful day. Being the ever empathic W, I take this cue and say to him that we'll just have a cuddle nite ( meaning no sex) and this would have been FINE, until he says, " I'll be able to get some sleep without you all over me." He said it in a "joking" manner, and I called him on it right away, but the damage was done. In his mind, he's this hard working saint being forced to ML to his needy, selfish wife. I had that ole BB thought: Why would I want to ML to someone who doesn't want me? When we went to sleep, I went to bed first, and I just didn't even want to sleep there. I got up and went to the guest room. He came in, and I explained that when he is ready to hear my wants and work with me at nite, then to let me know; otherwise, I'd sleep here. We ended up ML very passionately.
I guess I have just grown tired of working around his LD-ness. It's one thing if he is really not up for things...I can and have been accomodating, kind, patient, etc. It's another thing when he makes flip comments about the whole situation. There's a time for compassion and a time for setting boundaries, just wish I knew when to do what.
