Quote: Anyway, recently (after we had some good talks on this evasive behavior and how it hurt me, and how we should stop 'playing games'), I was half awake in the morning, and I noticed my wife sneaking out of the bed towards the living room. After like 5 minutes, I became really frustrated and angry, put on my clothes and walked to the living room telling her (in a more or less angry way) how "If you dosn't want me around, then fine! I'm gone for the rest of the day, do whatever you want!"
Turns out she wanted to surprise me with coffee and breakfast, and she was waiting for the coffee to finish.
The great irony here is that she actually thought she was showing her love more by the act of service of making you breakfast than by a morning snuggle. Is there any LD or former LD on the board who can explain why she would feel that cooking breakfast was a more loving gesture than cuddling (even with no "sex"). Is it because the cooking is work and effort and the snuggling is easy, so it doesn't count?
My bf's first words in the morning are, "Is the coffee ready?" Then he'll sit up on the side of the bed (while I'm lying naked beside him) and pet and baby-talk the dog. I mean, when he wakes up, clearly he has the impulse to greet and express affection. So the dog and I are both lying there-- and he chooses the dog. (I know others of you have this dog thing. I LIKE that he loves the dog-- I just wish I could get some of that action.) Then he's off to the kitchen without even patting me on the hip or anything. It never ceases to be a mystery.
Is there any LD or former LD on the board who can explain why she would feel that cooking breakfast was a more loving gesture than cuddling (even with no "sex"). Is it because the cooking is work and effort and the snuggling is easy, so it doesn't count? 
