Gremlin... The schedule idea came about when I was first going through my HD-ness; I wanted to be more sexual and intimate and H felt pressured, and our sex life was sporadic. He woulld blame it on stress from work, being tired, etc., but I knew he had felt disconnected from me and had a lot of relationship issues ( as did I, but now I was willing to move forward).
He came up with the idea of having one nite during the weekend where we would try to do something fun as a couple, and then ML. It was our Sat Nite Date Nite, and some of the oldies on the board might remember that we went through lots of struggles before we got the hang of it.
In order to have intimacy, you have to come together with a degree of regularity: a starting place. We had many awkward nites in the beginning, but eventually we both showed up, stayed committed to it and moved forward from there. I really credit NOPkins for encouraging me when I was questioning whether planned sex is good sex. ( it is...duh)!
