One thing I have noticed is that H and I go about distancing from one another in different ways. I will tend to get moody and start to think negative thoughts, and H will get defensive, irritable and authoritative. It seems as we start to get closer emotionally and physically, we each get stirred up to the point of wanting space again. I am sure this goes on naturally in healthy relationships, but since we are in this healing phase, everything just seems much more intense.
Right now we are enjoying a nice connection; I did want to ML this morning but decided not to push it. We discussed the next time would be on Tues, and I want to hold to that. Having some sort of a schedule is helpful to me....I like knowing what to expect and having input.
