I have to say, at least for me, the wedding ring thing is a no-no. I take M very seriously and would never remove my rings unless ABSOLUTELY sure it was over. Of course, I recently did, but that's another story. It would send the wrong message to him... you want him to feel you still are hopeful, but not waiting for him. If you alienate him, it's not going to work. You have to be honest with him above all. DBing is not about head games or lying to him, or even to yourself. Instead, leave your rings on.
I did put away our M photos, but mostly because I didn't want to be reminded of the happy times because it was too painful. I didn't do it to hurt H or make him wonder.
Voice mail good, phone calls good, be there like every third time he calls. No ILY good. I actually allowed touching, however. Not sure how it worked out for us, but my feelings were that physical touch is a way of connecting, so touching allowed me to let H know I was there and I left it up to his chemical reactions in his brain to do the rest... Zuki-monster, fill me in on this... when we ML and you were still an alien, how did it affect you? Did it do anything at all, make you guilty, make you feel closer to me, more distant, whatever?
Be VERY flirtatious. Remember to make him feel good about himself. Treat him like you did back when you were first dating. Make lots of deposits into his "love bank" and make him really feel good to be around you. After all, do you want to be around people that make you feel bad or good about yourself? Treat him how you want to be treated. But, most of all, leave him wanting more - and then don't be there when he tries to call you. Make him wonder "what's she up to?"
DEFINITELY GAL - lots of it. It makes you feel better about yourself, fills your time etc. I like the second half of your list -very much. Make yourself a happy, hot mama with goals and a life, and who could not fall in love with you, right?
