Zuki and Zilla, Thanks so much - you don't know how great it is to talk to you guys - your wisdom is so needed on this bb! I guess I already gave him the ultimatum this week (twice really) in the guise of big R talks. Of course, it only served to make things worse. But I think it might be because they were talk instead of action. I think he has to really "see" that I'm moving on and what that means to him. Here are some of the LRT kind-of ideas that I have. Do you think I'm on the right track? Any thoughts: 1) My wedding rings are now OFF. 2)I'm putting away the wedding photos in the bedroom. (I'll keep up lots of pictures of H around the house - family photos, but not couple ones) 3)I'm thinking of changing our voice mail greeting to just say Gib, D6 and S3. 4)No phone calls/emails/MSNs unless urgent, child-related, etc. 5)No ILYs 6)No initiating affectionate touches. 7)I think I'll continue to be flirtatious though. 8)GAL - get out more with friends, etc. 9)Be light and breezy around H - no anger, arguing, smart remarks 10)Don't ask H about his whereabouts, plans, etc. 11)No R talks - keep discussions light 12)Continue working on career (had a great meeting with a TV producer last week - I used to be a television reporter before kids) 13)Continue working on fitness goals - lookin' hot baby! So, in a nutshell, I guess I'm showing H that I'm indeed moving on, given that he has said that he is done with me (and, in fact, HAPPY that he's done with me) but showing him that he's missing out on one hell of a great woman.
