I guess Zuki just summed up what I was thinking - he always puts it so much more succinctly than I am able to. I am far too verbose, I fear.
I think the whole get a life thing really works, plus it makes you feel good. I wouldn't give an ultimatum, since that will likely backfire. Maybe if GAL doesn't work for you, you need to go dark. Don't give him his cake, let him hunt for his own.
