Quote: BTW - H was very hurt by my actions on Sunday - just in case anyone wondered his reaction. He was hurt, but at least paid lipservice to my hurt being much more severe than his and that he would suffer if it meant bringing me any peace.
Zuki - this is for you - don't even START on the "I'm hurt you don't trust me" schtick!!!!!!! If you EVER have ANY hope of winning her trust back, it will only be through total and full disclosure. And she'd be an idiot to just take you at your word right now, wouldn't she? So be truthful - it hurts, but NOT because she's being unreasonable, only because it reminds you of what a jerk you have been and how badly you have betrayed her trust. It's going to be hard, I know - my H had a really hard time discussing anything related to the affair, because he felt so ashamed of his actions. But you have to face it, and do what it takes to rebuild that trust - it will take a long time. You should have been glad for the opportunity to assuage her fears.
