Not much to add to the great work that you guys are doing here but wanted to throw my support your way.
I'm sorry that you guys are going thru this latest bomb but I strongly suspect you will emerge stronger and more bonded as a result. It seems like wound cleaning to me -- a great way to heal.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.