Hi! I just wanted to jump in and say that I still think that the two of you are doing a good job in spite of this setback and that you are being so generous during this difficult time by sharing your thoughts with the rest of us on this BB. Thank you both!!
I wanted to let Rotzilla know that you ahve no reason to be embarresed, although I also feel that way about my sitch. Just as I am up front with others about my alcoholism and eating disorders, I am also up front with my sitch. I don't go into all the details with most people but I think that culturally we have progressed to a point where we no longer need to hid these things from others.
I wanted to say to Rotzuki that although you screwed up, no one sits in judgement of you. It sounds like both you and your W have an excellent chance of getting through this. As painful as your actions have been, put your future actions to good use. Use them to begin to understand your own issues and understand why you are where you are. Be fearless but honest!
Lastly, I wanted to comment on the gut instinct regarding OP. My gut was pretty accurate. In fact at one point, it turned into a voice telling me that I would find naked pics of H's OW on his computer and sure enough there were pics! I struggle with gut feelings and paranoia. Many times I can't tell the difference. My grandmother became a nut job because of my grandfather's philandering. I'm afraid of becoming like her, suspicious of every little thing.
I think a good discussion for most of us on this bb would be how to balance gut instinct with mental and emotional balance.
