Zilla, you mentioned the gut feeling and you knew something was up. I rely on that also, and it doesn't let me down. (In fact, one time I got home and got physically ill(puking) but I couldn't figure out why-it was a few days later that I found out OW had been there that day.) If you knew something was up, why did you pick this same time to come to the board to post on your progress as joint posting?

You are both fortunate that you are able to discuss what is going on and will be able to move thru this and beyond. I'm not to that point yet, not sure if we'll ever get there where my H will trust me again. Isn't that ironic? HE has the affair, and says he can't trust me - I talked to other people about it.

I'm still not sure I understand how an EA can progress with a language barrier/communication problem. We all love the high we get from compliments and flattery, but how can you tell if you don't know the language? written?

What are the things that keep you going day to day to have the energy to stay together?

Thanks for still being here.

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