I wanted to come and bring you back to the first dilemna you mentioned...the PT
Quote: Anyway, it seems we are stuck. Maybe H is guilty. Maybe I am expecting too much too soon. We both agree we want things to go back to the way things were before the EA, before I began neglecting the R. But mostly, I want to truly know without a doubt that H loves me.
Going to the five love languages, I am physical touch, and he is acts of service. Lately, he doesn't feel like much PT, although our cuddle life is GREAT. I feel like I am ugly and he is not attracted to me. I also feel perhaps the guilt is getting the better of him, and that is making him hold back a little.
Our situations sound very, VERY similar, all beggining w/ the I dont love you, I love OW. Blah, blah, blah...anyways, it has been almost a year now since H and OW broke off R. We are doing so good...we are developing a different kind of friendship than we ever had before! Its like we are becoming soul mates instead of just H and W. BUT--my LL is PT also....and in no way am I getting any from my H. I feed all his LL and then some. So what I am wondering is how can I get H to do things for me??
Quote: H gave me a nice kiss last night before leaving to see some friends. I miss that, wish I got more of those. He's such a good kisser.
This is funny...just last weekend, H went away to see friends and I kissed him on lips and he actually kissed me back. Not the best kiss..but he kissed me back. But I initiated it. H NEVER initiates any kind of PT..well, I take that back...once in a while he will if he wants to ML..which is fine...
I too, like you...want to feel wanted, want to feel loved, want to feel that he is attracted to me!! But I dont know what else to do!! Also, neither one of us has said ILY in person since way b4 the EA started, which was about 2.5 years ago. I have texted to H ILY a couple of times when he has been away, but other than that, nothing. So for me...am I sure H does love me?? I think so...he does other kinds of things to show me he does, but not the things that I need most.
Do either one of you have any advice for me ?? Or can you tell me why he might be afraid to show me affection??
