Thanks guys. Don't be jealous. It was a long, hard and painful journey. You are just on a different part of the journey than we are... it took us two years to get back to this point.
Larjo, I think that you need to start to take control of your own life. I know that my H likes to do things for me, but doesn't like me being helpless. Yes, I think that being out of control in your own life allows others to take over that part of your life. In other words, if you leave yourself open to being controlled by not taking control yourself, someone will step in and control you. If you take control of your own life, it will give you a sense of accomplishment and fill that void. Plus, you may be doing what I did when I was younger. I saw things my H did for me as ways he was showing he cared for me. I confused it with being helpless and it got to the point that he was doing so much for me he was sick of it. Perhaps your H is sick of it and his anger and resentment is coming out as more controlling behavior.
Then again, there is a chance he just has his own issues and needs to see a counselor.
