Hi JJ,
Yeah, that's a tough question. From her post, I see she believes I'm controlling her passively, but I can't see how except we seem to feed of each others moods. Sometimes, if I'm doing something because I feel guilty, she will feel guilty about it. Which makes me feel more guilty, and so on, and so on.
She was right about this weekend too. We had a good time and there definetely seems to be less stress between us since we both started posting here.