Hey Slowly, everything is good here. We have been having a very good time together. Somehow, I feel much closer to H since he and I started coming on here.
Nothing really to report. H laid in bed and read Saturday while I cleaned, and Sunday, I got up early and did some weeding while he slept. It was great because I didn't feel the pressure to make sure he was doing what he wanted to be doing. Every time he gets up to join me while I clean, I just know he is doing it out of guilt, and that puts a lot of pressure on me. Don't get me wrong, I want help around the house, but I'd like it on his terms. When he wants to do something. My time is early in the a.m. before the day starts. That way, I feel accomplished and less guilty when I go out to do my own thing the rest of the day.
JJ - I really don't know. I know I feel like Zuki is controlling me passively sometimes, but I am having a really hard time answering this one. See, I guess my control detector is shut off or something. I just don't see how I control him or when I am doing it. I'm not saying I don't because he obviously perceives differently. I'm just saying that I don't see it. Poor H is very busy at work - they are at 104% utilization so he is running himself ragged. Hopefully he will get a chance to post soon because I really want to explore this issue more with him. And your questions are a very good lead in.
On the positive side, I had a very, very good weekend with H. VERY nice. ... ha ha ha...And he got a great present for himself - the Straight 8 Electra bike, which he has wanted for some time. (We had a tax-holiday here in Taxachusetts) And I was very pleased that he got it because he did a great job budgeting for it and figuring out how we could save the most money (5% off by buying this weekend, and 10% back at the end of the year for buying through REI where we are members...) I was very impressed with his financial skill and reasoning in this transaction.
VERY nice. 
