Well, to be fair, my H is not THAT passive. Instead, like some people have risk avoidance, he has hurt and fight avoidance. He really doesn't like to think about hurting me (or anyone he loves) and despises fighting. So do I, for that matter. He is very helpful around the house, gets projects done in good time, with some procrastination... but still gets them done without me nagging or anything.
His problem is all about FEELING that it is OK for him to go do his own thing and FEELING like he knows what is going on with our finances, etc.
So, Sheila, how does your H show that he is upset with you or when does he say you are being bossy? What are you doing at the time? Or saying?
