My H and I are also piecing our R back together and the issue of control is HUGE for us. Your post explains my feelings exactly, and I'm struggling on how to give up control, but our life not fall apart! My H is passive and slow to get things accomplished unless I remind him constantly, do it for him, or nag him. I'm realizing that this is HIS problem, and I have compensated by trying to do everything, and make his decisions. He resents it of course and I'm controlling, bossy, blah blah. I'm eager to see how you and your H tackle this problem together. If the bossy woman backs off, will the passive H really start taking responsibility for himself???? No offense to any of you, but that's what I'm trying to figure out in my own sitch. Good luck!!
