Hey 2much. Thanks for your input. I don't think- and correct me if I'm wrong Zuki - that I make H feel as if he can't do his own thing by anything I do or say. It's more of a feeling he has that he will disappoint me if he just does it... But, maybe I am wrong again. I place a lot of blame on my MIL, maybe incorrectly, but she is the guilt queen, and he grew up feeling a lot of guilt in her house. She still guilts him, but doesn't mean to. She really wants to just love him, but I think he gets a lot of guilty feelings from MIL's style of mothering.
Quote:
Perhaps you can practice just letting him put his feelings to words and saying, I support you in whatever you do to try and alleviate that feeling.
That way, you put the onus on HIM to foster his own independence (where it belongs, after all) and you take yourself out of the controlling seat.
Honeypot, I LOVE you for helping me. Thanks. I think that may help. Sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it. I will try that. Thanks a million!!!
