Yes, Sage. I think that's what I was trying to convey.
"R -- I can't tell the tone of your post but even this sounds a little controlling to me, ya know? Now h has the "job" to find time and you give him a bunch of suggestions? I get the sense that there's more here to the story but it still sounds like you are "giving" h the time....that may not convey to him the sense of independence he was hoping for."
