VJ, I think this puts it so succinctly. THANK YOU for this post. This is how I feel also... sometimes I would like it very much if Zuki-man would just say HEY! Stop doing that! Instead I feel as if he sometimes doesn't want to hurt my feelings and instead internalizes it and then it grows to resentment.
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In my case, I would have liked it if H would have learned to say "Hey, you are taking over again, step back and let's rethink - I want to have an opinion here". I probably would have laughed and agreed, b/c I recognize that in myself. But when it is not communicated, and the other partner withdraws and resents, that is when trouble starts.
Am I being controlling if I ask him to voice his feelings? I feel like I am.
