Good point, Honey. I also sometimes feel trapped. I walked into a M where my H has three kids from a previous M. I did it because I loved him that much, and I have grown to love his kids, also. I wouldn't change a thing. But sometimes I wish I had more freedom to do the things I missed out on when I went straight from being a "kid" to being a mother of three overnight. And sometimes I feel that my H stresses about my frustration because he feels that his kids are the source of my stress/lack of freedom. But that is just not the case. I just needed "me time" myself. Sometimes it just is not fun to feel like a dowdy housewife when before you were a wild and crazy (literally) independent demon.

OK lovers. Again, I understand. I will not assign you time - but I would like it if you would find time for yourself. I know we talked about this before and because of the feeling you have of whatever obligations you feel at the time, you never actually stick to it.

I have been finding "me" time, it's something that DB drilled into me. Make yourself happy first because if you are not happy, you will not be a happy person to be with. So, I have been doing the gym thing. Every day I find some time to devote to making myself happy. Sometimes I just stop for a half hour on the way home from work to hit the bookstore. That makes me happy also... I would like more bubble baths. But maybe I can find time for that also...

Now, it's your job to find "you" time. No excuses, just do it. Get up and work out. Go out after work and go for a bike ride without me. Go polish your car/bike. Go putter around the basement. Do your karate again. I don't care, but you HAVE to do something! I can't be happy if you are not. And you want me to be happy, riiiighhht??? Ha ha ha. LOVE you baby.

Just find time and I will stop scheduling your entire life for you. I admit I have that habit.

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