Quote: But I enjoyed having a "little island" I could "escape" to. Now, what I don't want is my W telling me "go do this" or "go do that by yourself because you don't want me around" because that's not it at all. It's hard to explain it. It was maybe more of a feeling of independence. This will sound strange to her because she has no leash on me whatsoever. But the feeling is there none the less.
I understand what you are saying, although maybe not entirely. And I did not take it as you saying you don't want to be alone. Is it that you felt more freedom from having someone to "answer to?"
It is frustrating to me that you seem to want the freedom and independence, but when I try to get you to be more independent, you freak out... And it's tough when you and I have every Monday as date night and every Thursday is 99 night (we goes out with his karate friends - but it is meant to help his friends as much as it is for us to get together with friends.) and every Wednesday is MJ night (father-son night). You never have time for yourself to just do whatever. How about if you had a night a month (or more if you need to) that is just yours? Would that satisfy your need? Or is there more to it than that? Is it more of feeling independent than about being alone? Or maybe we can say that every day from 6-7 or whatever, maybe an hour after you get home, it is your time and we are not to bother you. How would that be? It may be weird at first, but you may grow to look forward to that time alone.
