thanks so much -its great to get some answers and support-
and the mascara thing didnt work out really coz i felt yuk at the shops so left early before I managed to get to the shop which sold it! - but i guess it can b one of my goals!
one of my problems is i dont know anything about the ow!so cant figure out what it is that he is attracted to her for---do i ask him that??I kinda asked him to think about it before (but in a positive way) coz they might be some things i could work on- he just doesnt really talk about anything at all!its so annoying!
all i know is from a freind of his who met her once- she is younger and has tattoos? - that doesnt give me much to work on - i have tatoos too thats not it!Im also not an oldie! All H has told me when i did ask in my original rage was that she was nice and that he felt sorry for her coz her mum was dying. Im nice too- and am not exactly gonna poison mum or anything to get his sympathy vote! he also said he began talking to her about our marriage and the problem that he didnt want kids but i do- i think more than anything he may have got caught up in an emotional relationship??/ who knows!
i have that horrible feeling in my gut- that i just want to know everything! i know that supposedly doesnt really help anyway if you know
I did however get H to agree on one thing with me to start progress with sorting though the M probs. He agreed to - remove her no. from his phone, not get into conversations with her, try and distance himself from her and sit with his other mates.
I told him to work on the M he really needs to distance himself or it may end up being dangerous. H totally agreed- and said he was already going to start doing this. The thought of him going to work makes me sick- but i guess with this plan i'll feel a bit better! He didnt ask me what my little goal was- which is good- coz its just to play cool, get a bit interesting and try and be happy and understanding to him- even though i do feel like losing my mind!
