Before we got married our sex life was good. It wasn't an issue until after we got married few weeks after we got married we were preparing to move and thats when I noticed things changing in the bedroom. He told me it was the stress of moving. I was bothered by it ofcourse but I let it go. We moved and the same thing happened once we got to our destination to him there was always something interfering whether it was moving or the issues with his family constantly not giving us privacy shortly after we got married. And yes I complained about it because their intrusiveness didn't leave us any alone time as newly weds. Till this day my husband thinks its my fault for how I reacted because once he woke up his relatives would call him down stairs to socialize and when he wakes up usuaully he only has 2 hours before he can go to work well those two hours were used up by his family and that really angered me. The arguements turned pretty ugly between us and his family picked up on my dislike for them even tho they didn't understand english. We finally moved to our new place which removed us from that tension but our sex life never came back and shortly after I found out I had issue with infertility which made things worst. We have tried counseling back then but the counselor thought our problems would be resolved if we moved back to the U.S. since the language barrier kept me from doing alot of things there. We finally moved from their 4 years later. But I felt going to that counselor was a waste of time..maybe that person wasn't qualified to handle our situation. Whats keeping us from getting counseling now? Money (since he decided to cut back his hours) and the posibility of the counseling not helping.
