Quote: For my wife her love language is NOT physical touch and probably is acts of service. Her needs in marriage are Financial support, and maybe quality time together. But NOTHING that involves physical touch.
If financial support is one of her biggies, then would it be safe to assume that the financial difficulties you have referenced are impacting your wife's feelings toward you?
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Unfortunately, I think that physical touch is the HARDEST love language to learn if it is not your primary love language. Why? Because physical touch can not be faked, it must be genuine, it is EASY to see when it is not genuine.
Cemar, this is self-defeating bullsh*t and it comes across as an attempt to push your particular needs forward as being the most special and most difficult to see resolved.
If your spouse's primary need is financial support and you have a strong desire to be a stay-at-home parent or a struggling entrepreneur - how easy do you think that dichotomy is to accomplish?
Or if recreational activities are his/her primary need and you just happen to be the world's biggest couch potato who can't stand the idea of leaving the house? Just how easy is that to overcome?
Take conversation - how many spouses want deep, meaningful talks only to find themselves married to caveperson who expresses him/herself primarily in grunts and god forbid if emotion (outside of sports and/or soap operas) is involved.
Which is harder - reaching out to give your spouse a hug for a minute or two, or spending 20 minutes yakking about some mundane inane topic and actually listening without letting your eyes noticeably glaze over?
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Should I try to meet her needs, yes. No doubt. So then what does SHE do. How does a very LD women actually become HD again?
Your wife doesn't have to be high drive to sexually satisfy you.
Are you the strong, assertive, financially capable man she desires?
Maybe that's what it will take to make your LD wife a HD one.
Quote: I have been reading honeypots posts, and I feel the exact same way that she does, she wants to see REAL desire from her spouse, well the same is true for me, I want REAL desire from the wife. Willingness for sex is NOT acceptable.
Hey, poor business choices that leave your family in financial straits for years aren't acceptable either.
