I have read the "Five Love Languages" as well as a ton of other books. I know that my love language is physical touch, and that my #1 need in marriage is sexual fulfillment, and my #2 need is affection. That is 75% of the marriage right there for me. For my wife her love language is NOT physical touch and probably is acts of service. Her needs in marriage are Financial support, and maybe quality time together. But NOTHING that involves physical touch.
Unfortunately, I think that physical touch is the HARDEST love language to learn if it is not your primary love language. Why? Because physical touch can not be faked, it must be genuine, it is EASY to see when it is not genuine.
Should I try to meet her needs, yes. No doubt. So then what does SHE do. How does a very LD women actually become HD again? I have been reading honeypots posts, and I feel the exact same way that she does, she wants to see REAL desire from her spouse, well the same is true for me, I want REAL desire from the wife. Willingness for sex is NOT acceptable. Passionate marriages require desire from BOTH spouses. What is the point of marriage when only one spouse has desire for the other? That is a very unbalanced marriage, it is very unhealthy.
