Sorta funny about how much commotion a conversation of what a LD person thinks about instead of sex can create. And how it can be twisted into instead of it just being that. That it means as LDs we are not trying to fufill our spouse or we ignore our spouse. When really all we are saying is in the course of the day we are thinking about all these other thoughts instead of about sex. And that all this mumble of responsibilitys in our head and life put a damper on our sex drive. Not saying we are not spending time with our mates just not thinking of sex. And not looking for excuses just not thinking about sex. Not saying we wont have sex. But at 10;00 AM and the spouse is at work we are not thinking about sex.
I am probably over-personalizing it. But in the case of my wife, we're NOT having sex, and we're not having sex because she has no desire to, and she has no desire to because she feels like "it's just one more 'chore' I have to do ... you're just one more person in this family who's 'at' me." (This, word-for-word, she has told me several times).
I'm sorry if I projected my anger and frustration toward you and Jen; I do understand your larger point.
