Yet again CeMar you did not try to read into what we were talking about. We were speaking as LDs and why we are not obsessed with thinking of sex every minute of the day.
In my list I did not state I did not think about my H and that these things were more important then my H. I stated that these things crossed my mind or were more important then sex. And while yes sex is his primary love language I also pointed out that my H does the same when it comes to my primary love language other things are more important and are put first. So we are both guilty of doing the same thing there. And really hate to tell you I do not look for my children to get sick so I can get nerved racked from hours of wailing and cleaning puke everywhere every few minutes. And bathing the [censored] off of them. Nor do I look for all the laundry it entials afterwards. And cleaning there beds and rooms to get rid of the stench and germs. Sorry I don't feel any LD person would actively seek this. What are you accussing me of purposely making my child sick because I know my old man wants sex. Or hey let me take all the clean cloths and drag them through the mud so I will have to wash them again and fold them again and put them up again just so I do not have to have sex.God get real!
CeMar I invision your wife feeling as she is needing a flashing neon sign strapped between her legs saying come and get it open 24 hours a day To make you happy. Just by what you say here. It must be a terrible feeling for her. But of course that is not important because you are the victim to her and her LDness. It cannot be that you are somehow at fault for her LDness. She did all of this to you she deprieved you she has ruined your life because you do not have sex everyday and when you do it is not good enough and this is all her fault. She did this to you. I am glad that the majority of HD people here do not walk around sprewing the crap you do. If they did the few LD people here would never be able to achieve or learn anything. We would probably become more LD then we are now. And the HD people that that are trying to understand the whys and whats to LD behavior would never have a chance to learn anything from a LD person that is trying to change for there spouse. And I am really glad my H does not think your way. If he did I would not have been dreaming of dismembering him at one time I would be sitting in jail for doing it. Maybe it is time you give up the pity me act and start doing something other then being selfish and only carring about yourself and your needs. CeMar why can you not understand a marriage is not all about sex. And if that is what you based getting married on was for you want of sex. Dam did your wife get short changed in the deal. Oh yeah and sorry this is so blunt and this is only in response to CeMar.
Second. Why do you thing that divorce is so high for empty nesters? Spouses ignore each other for kids for 20+ years, now the kids are gone and you are living with a stranger Then there are all those people who realized that the person that they married was not the person they thought they had. That they were monsters of sorts. Or they were not the gentleman that opened the door for them or seemed concerned with and encouraged the others goals in life. Never wanted to try anything new in life. blah blah on and on. You know the people that were so unsatisfied within there marriage for other reasons then sexual fufillment maybe just the plain fact there S was a selfish [censored]. But they endured this for the kids. Now that they are past that raising the kids responsibility they are seeking a chance for happiness. I see many HD people state that they do not leave there spouse because of there kids(even seen this on a few post from you). Guess what LD people do not leave there spouses because of there kids to. But once the kids are gone why should they stay with this person who has made them so unsatisfied in life. Everyone deserves some happiness.
And my H cherishes the fact that I love my children so completely as he does also. It is very comforting to know that if you die your spouse loves your child enough to put no others above it. I never worry that if I die my children will be made to feel the less important and the extra bagage. They will still be taken care of loved and nourished and neither does my husband have to worry about this. Because we both love them more then anything else in our lifes.
