I Have been HD and LD in the same marriage, and I don't view being LD as being damaged goods---it's just a different physical as well as mental state of being. There is a certain spirit I am enjoying by having my sexuality reawakened, which means nothing if I don't have an intimate connection with my H. I appreciate it all the more because it was missing from the picture for me for so long.
Yesterday my H and I played a tennis game for the first time in a long time. We used to play and then dropped it. We restarted by just hitting the ball around but that got boring after awhile. We really didn't have the confidence to start a game considering how much we lost before, but I suggested it, and we had a fun time. It was nice to be back in the game with him...what we have lost in youthful energy is made up for in the appreciation that we are out there again. If we never took up tennis again, it really wouldn't matter all that much, life goes on. But it seems every yr life just chisels away at you, and the more that you can do to stay in fun spiritedness with your partner, I feel the more enriching your life can be. I really see sex in that light, only more so because of it's unique opportunity for intimacy and exclusivity. I know I can't change my H's POV because I have been there, but I would be failing myself ( and him too)if I didn't assert how I feel now.
