My only comment on this wonderful thread, which has been quite busy this weekend, is to rerun what my MC said to my W and me a couple sessions ago:
MC: (leaning forward and looking directly at W) Know this. That if you spend a half hour less with your daughter a couple times a week, or if you only work on the bills and budget three days a week instead of every day, it will have little long-term effect on your daughter or on your budget. But neglect spending a half hour a day focusing on each others' needs? Your marriage will be doomed.
