So, there's nothing you've ever done during dating that you could say later wasn't 100% truthful? You've never used a line on a girl? Never said "I love you" when you didn't? Never stood a girl up, or lied to her about your feelings? Never??? Come on, dating is not always about getting married... sometimes it's just fun ! Did you marry the first girl you dated?
Quote: Sometimes sex/ML has to happen so the HD person does not think about sex most of the day.
Ok, I just HAD to jump on this one! You've got to be kidding me?!?! Your W must put out so that you don't think about sex all day??? Are you for real? I go through my day with a million problems/thoughts running around in my brain. I am not only working a regular job, I'm running the most important empire in the world, my family. I'm trying to coordinate care, manage finances, direct trafic in our little world, and you're worried you'll think about sex too often? Can ya tell I don't give a fig how often you think about sex?!?!
Lou, I think your basically a good guy! And I would love to hear that your W has suddenly hit her pace and is jumpin' your bones every other night. But this thread was about the fact that I see so many posts about how we LD people don't realize the damage we are doing in our marriage, as if it was a carefully executed plan or something.
I'm not sure how to bridge the gap between the HD person wanting a deeper connected love life, and the LD person having their feelings validated and being accepted for the way they are inside. Hope someone figures that out soon, cause until there is a pill that shifts me into high gear, I'm stuck in low and feeling pretty bad about it.
Jen ~feeling a bit down over this and not sure if this is the place I should be.
