I myself was referring to why I do not always think about sex. Things that helped to demenish my desire. And Jen also states the same thing she is not always thinking of sex. And no matter how HD we try to be we are still LD at our core of our being. I have seen HDs state on this BB they think of sex daily and usually more then once. I myself may only think of sex or want sex once a week if my H does not remind me of it. That is why I am carrying this LD lable. That is what makes me LD. I may choose to have sex with my H everyday of the year for the rest of my life and I will still be LD for that very fact.
But think of the other stuff that gets edged out, too-- stuff that you've let go of and probably haven't noticed because it doesn't affect your partner, so there's no one to remind you.
I believe this comment is so true. I think that this very thing is what is the bottomline cause for what we call a MLC for many people. All these things we loved and enjoyed while we were younger then responsibility comes along and pushes this aside. One day we wake up longing for the ability to do what once was so important to us. The longing builds until it takes control of our entire life. Ah well just my thoughts lol
But I think the connection with your partner sexually has to be maintained in some way or you won't be able to get back there.
I agree here. I do not think either Jen or myself stated that fufilling our spouse was not important to us. Again I think we were only trying to say no matter how much we have sex for our S and our M it does not change us at the core of our being who we are and the fact we do not desire sex as often as our S does.
Sometimes as LD's we are put in the position that we feel we have to explain over and over again why we are LD. We are made to feel at fault or to blame for our marital problems because we are LD. We are made to feel that we are faulty merchandise. It is almost like we spend so much time trying to figure out why we lack desire and explaining it that we become exhausted from all the self analizing we tend to do.
Let me ask this what makes you HD? Why are you HD? Less the testostrone level aspect why are you HD? What makes you want to have sex all the time and think about it all the time?
See HD's are not made to figure out why they are HD it is just excepted that this is normal.( until resentment enters the picture then this gets distorted). But a LD is suppose to figure out why they are LD and fix it. It is not exceptable to just be LD.
