jen wrote
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I read so many posts about HD people feeling like we LDs are making the choice to give up a hot SL dispite how much it is hurting the other partner, and it simply just isn't so.

Some of the HD women on this board (I'm thinking of honey and JJ) probably have strong enough intrinsic physical drives that sex is one of the things that won't get shoved to the back burner.

But I think of the things I WANT to do-- like writing and practicing the guitar-- and when the end of the day comes, I still haven't done it, and then a month goes by and I haven't picked up the guitar... unless there truly is a POWERFUL DRIVE at work, sometimes it's hard to pack everything in. I don't have kids and I have a LOT of free time. Those of you with several kids and two careers-- frankly I do not see how you maintain your sanity!

I'm anticipating some of the HD husbands responding with "YES BUT--" the S life should be a priority up there with clean floors, dishes, and yard work. Yeah, it should... but when those other things are screaming for attention, because if you don't do them right now, they'll only be worse in an hour/day/week...

It reminds me of a joke that I can't remember, but it has a terrific punch line: "They were stamping out flaming ducks!" I guess you can make up the rest of the joke for yourself! It has something to do with dealing with the emergency that is right in front of you whether you want to or not, whether you feel like it or not.