I ask BB what she likes and get "I don't know" or "rub my back" which I am good at and she tells me I am, but it puts her to sleep. I am not reallying trying to complain, just stating some people try to please their partner but don't get much feed-back. Just another side to the problem of the partner not answering or sticking to or doing what is asked. Similar to what you said GEL.
I think if anyone I knew read what goes on here they would have a cow. I don't feel that way because I don't see anyone using this board in a way that seems something like having a personal A with anyone else. That is not to say some people seem to have things they relate to better with a few people.
This board is amazing. I can ask/read/tell all kinds of questions that would never be discussed openly with any of the so called real people I know.
I have told my H I need him to back off of what he's doing, in order for me to enjoy the experience more... Just had a "wild" but unrealistic thought. Maybe you need to have one of those video game ports installed in your H body then you could press the fast/slow, right/left, softer/harder buttons and get more the way you like it.
How about drawing 3 imaginary buttons on your H's back and tell him up is faster/harder, down is slower/softer, and one button for R/L.
You have some lipstick you don't like, don't you? Use it on your H and draw him a picture on him. If you do this, you are communicating in the verbal, tactile, and visual modes. Three ways of saying something should get the message across. He might even think it is kinky to be drawn on in lipstick.
