I can easily tell you what's too much for me. When my H does perform oral, I can tell he enjoys it when I begin trying to squirm away...he's thinking "Alright!!!", but I'm telling him (verbally & physically) to back off a bit, for me what he's doing isn't pleasurable for me. I can tell he's thinking I'm going to "O", but what he's actually doing isn't pleasurable for me, he does some things that cause such intense feelings that they do become irritating when he doesn't let off and do something else for a bit....they are pleasurable in moderation for me, but I don't want that particular motion constantly repeated insessantly. I get to the point where the feeling actually causes me to see stars because I'm breathing too irregularly...that's not a good thing, I cannot enjoy myself like that. Of course, it's not like this happens often, very rarely in fact....but when he does this, it's not pleasureable for me.
I can potentially see CeMar doing something like that...thinking what he's doing (since he would think it should be nice) would continue doing something to get her off.
